The Alice factory.

Sticks and stones may break some bones, but words make people punch each other in the face.

I can count on my two hands now how many couples (a few of them married) in my various circles of contacts have split recently. As someone who hasn’t had a lot of faith in relationships in the past, it makes me a little uneasy, even though there hasn’t been much of a ripple in my own relationship. I can’t help being reminded of my old beliefs that only lucky people can be happy.

(People keep saying relationships take work, but they never explain what that means.)

In my processing through everything I’d heard recently, I’ve come to the conclusion that: (1) words really do have the power to make or break a relationship, despite all the years of being together; and (2) destructive words have a far more reaching impact than healing words… I guess because it pokes at our self-defenses.